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When it comes to your roommates, hopefully at the very least you can share your diagnosis with them, so you’re not constantly anxious that they’re speculating about you. A: Lots of answers coming in along these exact same lines!If there are any readers with relevant experience and advice for this letter writer, please chime in! The overarching theme seems to be to stick to being friendly, supportive, and professional, and not to presume that your co-worker can’t find help for her problems on her own.If she can’t support you in this, I hope you give yourself the freedom to spend time with people who do. Awkward medical problems, ahoy: In the last year I developed a bowel-related medical problem that is mainly managed with a doctor-approved diet and is exacerbated by stress.During a flare-up, I need quick access to a bathroom and my use of the amenities therein is uhhh, not very silent.
I’ve been in the office space and noticed that some cubicles are near windows—having one of these would enhance my work and productivity.Since your mother has offered you her support, I think you can tell her what you want that support to look like—namely, that she respect your decision not to see your grandmother and that she not try to force you to spend time with her.What you are asking for is perfectly reasonable and achievable, and if your mother prioritizes keeping silent and “going along to get along” over your very real reaction to trauma and abandonment, then she is making the wrong decision.A: If she were someone you simply knew socially, then I think there would be ways to talk to her about the number of possibilities available to her, and to offer support in accessing them or talking through what she wants.But since this is someone you work with, I think it’s better not to say anything like, “Have you considered having an abortion?My stress levels are up, and my body has started to react.Is there anything I can say or do to make this less awkward in our thin-walled apartment?Grandma is old now and not in the greatest of health, so there may not be many more holidays and birthdays in her future.How do I get through the admittedly few family events that are left?Mallory Ortberg, aka Dear Prudence, is online weekly to chat live with readers. (Sign up below to get Dear Prudence delivered to your inbox each week. To advise or not to advise: I have a co-worker who just found out she’s pregnant.She’s only 21, already has a 3-year-old, and recently started taking online classes toward a bachelor’s degree.